The holiday season is often described as a time of joy, togetherness, and celebration. But for those grieving the loss of a loved one, it can be a particularly challenging time, filled with conflicting emotions and reminders of what—or who—is missing. At New Hope for Kids, we understand how difficult this season can be and are here to support you as you navigate this emotional period.
Understanding the Complexity of Grief During the Holidays
Grief is a deeply personal journey that evolves over time. As Dr. Tali Berliner explains, grief can feel like waves in the ocean: sometimes calm and manageable, other times overwhelming. During the holidays, the feelings of grief may intensify as celebrations highlight the absence of loved ones. It’s important to acknowledge that grief doesn’t pause during the holidays, and it’s okay to feel a mix of emotions.
Strategies to Cope During the Holiday Season
1. Set Boundaries with Holiday Events
You don’t have to attend every holiday gathering or participate in every tradition. Take the time to check in with yourself and decide what feels right. It’s okay to opt out of events, leave early, or attend with the understanding that you’ll leave if it becomes too much.
2. Acknowledge Your Emotions
It’s natural to experience a range of emotions, from sadness and longing to moments of happiness. Allow yourself to feel these emotions without judgment. Remember, it’s possible to miss your loved one while still finding joy in the present.
3. Plan Ahead for Holiday Roles
The absence of a loved one may leave gaps in holiday traditions. Consider planning ahead to decide how to address these roles, such as who will carve the turkey or hang a special ornament. Preparing in advance can help minimize unexpected pain and create a smoother experience.
4. Honor Memories While Creating New Traditions
Finding ways to honor the memory of your loved one can be comforting. This might include lighting a candle, sharing stories, or continuing a favorite tradition. At the same time, creating new traditions can be healing and provide opportunities to make fresh, meaningful memories.
5. Develop Coping Strategies
Prepare a list of coping skills to use when grief feels overwhelming. Techniques like deep breathing, journaling, taking a walk, or listening to music can provide comfort and help you regain a sense of balance.
6. Volunteer or Give Back
Engaging in charitable activities can provide a sense of purpose and connection. Helping others during the holiday season is a powerful way to channel your energy and bring joy to others.
7. Ask for Support
You don’t have to face grief alone. Reach out to friends, family, or support groups to share your feelings. Professional help from a therapist or counselor can also provide valuable tools and guidance.
A Message of Hope
As Dr. Tali Berliner reminds us, there is no “right” or “wrong” way to approach the holidays after a loss. The most important thing is to be kind to yourself and take things one step at a time. Allow moments of joy to enter your grief space and cherish the connections you have with those around you.
To read more about navigating grief during the holidays, visit the original article by Dr. Tali Berliner: How to Cope with Grief During the Holidays.
At New Hope for Kids, we offer grief support programs tailored to children, teens, and families. If you or someone you know could benefit from additional resources, visit our website for information and support.
